Good vs. Bad...

WOW! So I hear a lot of men ask the question "why do all the good guys finish last?" and I have a few ideas as to why it SEEMS that way but I also want to ask my men a question: are you usually going for the good girl? Think about that long and hard...now back to the original question...

"Why do good guys finish last?"

Women like a few things...power, confidence, a challenge and the opportunity to feel like she can rescue someone...and of course to be adored by someone who people may think is impossible to keep...all too often bad boys encompass all of these things but where we women mess up is forgetting that men like all the things women like... so as we become puppets in these man's hands because we're all in love...we forget to pull out our "freakum dress" or have a night out with our girls...or to walk into a room and have every head turn because we're walking like we got it...we forget to do that and so we lose the interest of the bad boy...but those magnets are strong...too often good guys act like love sick women and so WE get bored...

{Before I continue let me say I totally dont think there is any such thing as a "bad guy" who was not at some point a "good guy" and the same thing goes for women}

"Bad" guys have this aura about them that screams "i dont need you woman" and the idea that we are not needed presents *drumroll please* a CHALLENGE...CONFLICT...we all live for it...we breath it...its wonderful...we love challenges...its why shows like Jeopardy and Wheel of Fortune have been on for centuries...we like to see a problem and then decide how to fix it...so when we, women, see a man who has this air about himself we go crazy for it. Because bad guys are often hurt good guys that mother instinct kicks in and we feel like we have to save them, we have to be there to prove to them that goodness exists..we give it all...and all in all "bad" guys just know how to play the game to get the girl...they know how to have a good time without worrying about what people may think, they're often trendsetters and are usually the adored of they're male counterparts as well...and the most obvious yet most ignored reason of all...the MEDIA...duh...in every movie. video, everything...the bad guys are the sexiest...we learn to like all the things they do (tattoos, fast cars, partying, lots of women) and they are most often portrayed as the best lovers but honestly "bad" guys always end up alone unless they channel all those things into loving the woman who has dedicated herself to him...the ultimate good guy with bad guy charisma is Barack Obama...check his steps...you dont have to become president but peep his style...its SICK!

And now I want to speak up for the good girls! Because I hear you fellas out there always complaining about this good guys finishing last idea but what about us? Lets start from the top down...prime examples...two of the biggest female stars right now are Rihanna and Beyonce...and I think it is safe to say that neither of them experienced the height of their success until they turned the corner from sweet girl next door to the freak around the corner...I mean Rihanna spelled it out for us "Good Girl Gone Bad" (sold over {and is still selling} 4 million copies worldwide better than her first 2 "good girl" albums combined)...and the video girls who you all adore and praise...sex video starlets...the list goes on and on...you men seem to want bad...sexy...dangerous but you want to not be held to the same standards? I dont think thats a fair standard...there are many seemingly plain, good girls who are wonderfully eccentric, daring, risky, educated, focused and BEAUTIFUL inside and out but you probably wouldnt give them a second look on the street because some "bad" girl wearing close to nothing would probably be stealing your eye at the moment :)

The bottom line to all of this is...we need to appreciate the good in the people we come in contact with because if one more good girl/guy had been appreciated in the way he/she deserved there would be one less bad girl/guy to break another heart...I love all my brothas (and brothas from another mother) and I encourage my good dudes to turn your "swagga" {i know the word is horribly overused} up, puff your chest up, hold your degrees up and go after your dreams and the woman who you're supposed to be with, the woman who will appreciate everything about you, will come along. Love yall!!