As Long As There Are Men....

So recently, I've seen lots of men sounding off on "side chicks", "jumpoffs", "Kat Stacks", "women who don't know their role", etc...and I can't help but think...but aren't men to blame? No, really. This is not to put men on blast....or to even make them look like the "i would rather judge you with my one eye than my two eyes" creatures that they are. It's merely to point out that these women would have no power if men did not bestow it upon them. The thing that gets me every time about the Supaheads and Kat Stacks of this world...is not how disgustingly gross the women are (although that is NOT to be overlooked) but the fact that men KNOW how disgustingly gross these women are...but that does not stop them from sleeping with them. And when they're called on it...it's all of a sudden "jumpoff" this..."sidechick" that...but what about the fact that you and your homeboys slept with her? Why is that not an issue? With all the great, smart, funny, beautiful, moral women in this world...women who you probably overlook on your way out of the bank...or at the food drive you went to go help out at, or the neighborhood you grew up in...you CHOSE Kat Stacks. It's crazy to me. It's truly baffling. I hear men say ( or see them tweet...you know what I mean) how they want a "real" woman...hear them say "i don't want fake boobs or a fake butt"...and in the very next sentence drool over Rosa Acosta and her plastic counterparts...so what does that tell me? Either men don't really know what they want...or they just don't care as long as it has a hole and a butt to smack. Harsh...but true. Women bear the hard grunt of all these terms "gold digger", "side chick", "hoe", "jumpoff", "jersey chaser"...but men always play into it. How can a woman be a side chick if you're faithful to your girlfriend/wife? How can a woman be a jumpoff if you and your boys respect yourselves and decide to not openly smash the same crazy/insecure/lifeless girl? How can a girl be a gold digger if she doesn't know for sure that a hair weave, fake boobs and the right dress can land her a shopping spree on Rodeo for at least one weekend? Think about it. Women can be conniving, sneaky, etc...but there is no way that a man cannot see a woman like Kat Stacks coming from a MILE away...I mean Supahead had not one, but TWO books about men who slept with her knowing exactly who she was and what she stood for...I can spot them...at the club...at basketball games...they dress, talk, walk and behave in a certain way...the truth of the matter is...men are so arrogant that they convince themselves they're special..."she's only giving it to me this good"..."i can call her anytime and she'll be with me all day...i know she ain't rolling with no other ninja"...dude wake up...

What I am trying to point out is that for every cause there is an effect...sadly the cause is more and more Black men who do not 1) respect themselves or 2) respect women (not just Black women...ALL women) and the effect is women who 1) capitalize on this fact and 2) do not respect themselves either....no one is more to blame nor is one more at fault. In some way I am sure it's an unending cycle...pinpointing when, why or how it started is the hard part. As usual I write to start dialogue...to simply bring it to the attention of my readers. I feel you dudes in your frustration with women like this...but only you dudes who DON't perpetuate the behavior through your everyday actions. If you're tricking off on the girl you met at the club who knew every other baller in VIP...I'm sorry sir...you've been played by your local jumpoff...and you can only blame yourself. If the pretty girl with all the latest fashions and a $100,000 vehicle cannot readily identify her source of income and all you can think about is her fly gear and how envious all your boys will be when you bring her around...you're being doped...plain and simple...and when she turns out to be a jumpoff...don't be shocked...take your loss like Lebron...I mean like a man. Because at the end of the day...there will always be women with low standards and a lack of self-respect and as long as there are men willing to look pass that for some good dome or barbershop bragging rights...there will always be a Kat Stacks.

Just my thoughts.

Sincerely,

@bestnewactress